Up
until this point in my life, my relationship with God grew more intimate every
day. I cherished my morning time of prayer more than any other time of the day.
I longed to spend time with my Creator, pouring my heart out to Him while interceding
often for others. As I grew closer to Christ every year, I found nothing else could
even compare. I felt like a miserable, unsatisfied mess when I missed that hour
in the mornings. My Savior’s love filled me and refreshed me every morning.
Now,
for the first time in my entire life, I felt so unloved. I didn’t understand
why my faith wasn’t enough. My mornings no longer felt “romantic and peaceful.”
The intimate conversation stopped.
Daily
screaming matches in my car became my only conversations with God. Me screaming
about my anger, humiliation, hurt, confusion and devastation. I felt offended
and insulted. He, on the other hand, took it all, carried me through it and
gave me enough strength to keep moving each day. He gently whispered in my ear
that, yes, despite it all, I could still trust Him.
He
did love me, and He actually hurt, too, knowing the extent of the pain in my
heart. It hurt Him to see me hurting. He missed me, and even if I wouldn’t
admit to it, I really missed Him, too.
Truly, my anger mostly
directed itself inward. We all fought through anger toward ourselves for not
being “good enough” for the committee to approve us in the first place, forcing
us to let the kids down. The guilt overwhelmed us at times, like a heavy weight
crushing us beneath it. So great a heaviness, I could barely even breathe.
I
let them down. I didn’t fight hard enough or stand firm enough. I must not have
spoken or written to express our case clearly. I didn’t do everything I could
have done.
What doors had we not
opened or gone through that could have made a difference? Did we open and go
through doors we shouldn’t have? Those precious siblings counted on us, and we
let them down. Where exactly did it all go wrong? Did one specific thing
trigger their whole chain reaction against us? Could we have done something
differently to avoid this whole mess? Did we ever even stand a chance or did
doom follow our case from the beginning?
Not only did we fail the
kids, we failed everyone involved. We could compile a running list of everyone
we let down:
·
The summer hosting program
·
Our adoption
agency.
·
The kids’ host family
·
The
families not chosen to pursue this adoption
·
Everyone
who donated money
·
The organizations that awarded us grant money
·
Our church’s Adoption Ministry
Basically
we failed everyone who supported our entire journey.
In
addition to bearing the weight of failing so many, we also knew we failed each
other, and we failed our son.
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